Worry Through the Eyes of my Child

Haven and Darren Mulligan from the band, We Are Messengers.

A few weeks ago my 11 year old daughter, Haven, and I were talking about this blog and she asked if I could post something that she wrote.  When I asked her if she had anything in mind, she told me that she wanted to share what she has written about worry.  So, here it is, a post from my beautiful, real, courageous daughter, on a topic that is close to the hearts of so many children and adults.

 

My Worry by Haven

I struggle with worry.  When you worry a lot it’s hard to look at yourself and say, “You’re worth it, you’re loved and your beautiful.”  It’s easier to say, You’re stupid, you are dumb, you are ugly.”  Sometimes I feel as if I need to give up on myself.

I’ve worried ever since I was six or seven.  It’s hard to manage all the negative thoughts in your head.  My mom and dad have been the parents to have through this situation.  My mom has always given me sayings and verses to memorize.  This is an example of a verse: I prayed to the Lord and he answered me he delivered me from all my fears (Psalm 34:4).  An example of a saying is: faith not fear, hope not worry. My dad also supports me in all of this because when I’m sad he makes me laugh or tickle me.  Both my parents comfort me in the night when I wake up in the middle of the night scared or with a big headache.  The reason I wake up with a big headache is because I get scared in the night and it overwhelms me with bad thoughts.   I’m always afraid of everything.  I can make something that is not dangerous, dangerous in my head.

I still have trouble with anxiety but my mom told me something to remember. She told me fear is…

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

When my mom told me that it helped me a lot.

I went to a concert on November 14th, 2016.  It was awesome.  At the end me and my mom were going around to all the singers for autographs. Once we got Darren from We Are Messengers we asked him to sign a CD for a friend.  Right as we asked him he turned to me and said, “Let go of your worries and fears because you are God’s daughter and He made you beautiful.” We hadn’t told him that I struggle with worry.  It was just God sending a message to me through him. This helped me a lot because I feel as if God sent that message through him and that I am BEAUTIFUL!

I still struggle with worry but know I know God is with me and I am loved!!!!!!


A long time ago I was listening to David Jeremiah preach on the topic of fear.  He asked what the opposite of fear is.  Immediately I thought of the word trust.  His response was not trust but LOVE.  I’m going to have to paraphrase here the notes I wrote in my Bible that day because they had such an impact on my soul:  “Just as a child with a nightmare will run to someone that loves him/her, God wants us to throw ourselves into his arms because He is our father.  When we understand how much God loves us, when we grab hold of that truth, we will not be afraid.”  David Jeremiah spoke this truth to me.  Darren spoke this truth to Haven and she received it and responded to it in such a beautiful way.

My prayer for my daughter, and for anyone reading this that struggles with worry or anxiety, is this:  Lord, you tell us in your Word that there is no fear in love and that perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18).  Thank you for loving us with your perfect love.  Help us to not just have a head knowledge of that love, but to understand exactly what that means as we get to know you more and more.  Transform our hearts and her minds with your love.  Teach us to answer with prayer whenever worries come knocking on the door of our hearts.  In Jesus’ name, Amen.

LIVE LIKE YOU’RE LOVED!  HIS LOVE HAS MADE YOU MORE THAN ENOUGH!!!!

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